Last week was extremely stressful. I had a very busy week at work, and had to be out of the house and on the road by 5 am 2 days in a row. I also felt guilty about leaving my new dog-Francois aka Frankie at home for an extended period of time, even though I had a dog walker take him out during the day. The kicker was when I got home Friday after a long day and there was a note under my door from my neighbor complaining about Frankie’s barking.
I thought Frankie wasn’t barking as much, but apparently that wasn’t the case. I honestly felt horrible, as I would be very annoyed if I was hearing a dog bark at 6 in the morning. The difference in how I dealt with this now, as opposed to how Drunk Lisa would have dealt with this situation was not lost on me. I went to yoga Friday night, which helped take away much of the work stress I was feeling and also helped calm my nerves over my dog’s issues. I then ran into my neighbor and spoke with him and his girlfriend about the situation. I told them how sorry I was, and they were very understanding about it since they also have a dog. I also explained that I was enrolling Frankie in an obedience program, and was also going to purchase a anti-barking collar.
Drunk Lisa would have just been mad, and drank over her annoyance with the work situation, and also the fact that she was unlucky enough to have a dog that barks. It is so interesting to be able to take a step back from situations now and realize, yes this might be stressful, but it can be dealt with, and hopefully resolved.
I’m still dealing with the stress of Frankie’s barking as the collar I bought is not working, but I’m taking other steps to try to resolve the situation. I also addressed the work issue with my counterpart and explained to him my issue with not being included on the updates of an account we are both working on. He understood, and I also spoke candidly with my supervisor about the issue, and she shared my complaint with her supervisor who is working on resolving the issue.
It’s somewhat freeing to know I did everything I could in both situations instead of just shutting down and feeling sorry for myself and turning to alcohol as an outlet. I think that’s one of the most gratifying things about recovery-knowing that I’ve done my part to resolve problems, and being able to move on from them.